Friday, February 25, 2011

Jim's Story

This post is an actual email I received from a co-worker on the landscaping side of the company I work for. Jim is a neat young man, about my son's age, very mild mannered, conscientious, helpful, sweet-natured, caring, mature, and thoughtful. When I first met him, I couldn't help noticing all his tattoos, especially the teardrop near his eye. But as I usually do, I ignored the outward appearance and was immediately drawn to his calm spirit. He has quite a story, and he gave me permission to share it with you.


This Is My Story.

I was born in 1978 into very chaotic surroundings. My father and mother had an on and off kind of relationship. When I was six months old, my mother, in the heat of rage, made an attempt on the life of my brother and myself. Her exact words to my father were, "If I can't have the kids, nobody will." In the attempt my father stepped up to protect us and was stabbed in the process. My mother fled the scene never to be heard from again.

My father was a long haul truck driver, so for the next several years we traveled the country with him often living out of the cab of a big semi truck. My father would often shack up with a woman he had just met and then dump us off on the women while he traveled the country. Some of the women despised being put in that situation, but too fearful to tell my father no, proceeded to take their frustrations out on us. Some put us through pure hell, abusing us physically, locking us up in our rooms for days at a time with no food and nothing to do but stare at the walls, dreaming about the day when my father would return to gather us up and take us to the next destination.

When I was four years old I saw my father throw a woman out of a moving vehicle all over an argument over where we were going to eat dinner.

When I was five my father settled down with a woman and had another child, a boy named Russell.

Shortly thereafter, my grandparents, who lived on the coast of Washington State, begged my father to send my oldest brother and I to live with them so that we could have a chance at a stable life and an education. They loved us unconditionally and tried to give us the things that we never had. I never really saw my dad much for the next four years, maybe once a year for a week where he would visit. Most of the time he spent sleeping. He would sleep for days and then wake up and eat, and then sleep some more.

When I was ten, I was pulled out of school and sent home one day, not really sure as to what was happening. I walked in the house and my grandmother proceeded to tell me that my father had been murdered. I would not find out the details of what happened until years later but he had gotten hooked on methamphetamine and within a year he was stealing cars and traveling from state to state. He landed in Sacramento where he apparently ripped someone off in a drug deal. They shot him twice in the back of the head while he was bound, and left him in a marshy area of town where he was found 18 days later by a fisherman.

After that my life took a turn for the worse. I went clinically insane. My grandparents who were getting older could not handle two out of control kids so they put us into foster care, and we became a ward of the State. I was so bad that in my first year I went to nineteen different foster homes. The shortest stay was one hour and the people called the State to come get me because they could not handle me. The State finally put me in a mental hospital where I could be evaluated. I was there for four months getting treatment (more like being medicated out of my mind). Finally I was released and shipped to a long term facility for troubled kids in Spokane, Washington. This was no day care, these kids were the worst of the worst, kids who had killed, raped and committed just about every felony you could think of. These were the new influences of my life.

I joined the Rollin 60's crip gang and made it my mission to be as mean and tough as I could to earn the respect that I thought was due. Without going into detail regarding the things that I did in gang life, lets just say I was Evil.

But God likes a lost cause. When I was eighteen after almost getting killed in a drive-by shooting I hopped on a Greyhound bus to Dallas looking to make a better life for myself. I went to the first homeless shelter that I could find and started the process of rebuilding my life from the ground up. Within a week I was arrested for Aggravated Robbery. The charges were dropped for lack of evidence. You see I did not actually rob the guy, I just beat him within an inch of his life with a beer bottle just for fun, which was actually worse. The thought of a 10 year prison sentence did nothing to deter me from a life of crime, but God had other plans.

For the next several months he allowed a series of events to transpire in my life that broke me down to nothing and took every shred of dignity that I could have possibly had away. So on a hot day (105) homeless, alone, hot and thirsty with nowhere else to turn I prayed for the first time since I was a little child for God to reveal himself to me and to take the mess of a life that I had made and to try and doing something with it if he could.

He answered that prayer that day. Six months later I was preaching the Gospel in Rome. My friend Rick Baker began disciplining me and I began moving and walking in the new life that God had given me. I thought the dark days were behind me, but they were just beginning. You see, for as long as I could remember I had this dream of making it in the Rap industry.

I went on the Queen Latifah Show with Snoop Dogg to tell my story and to try to get discovered. I rapped on the show and Queen Latifah and Snoop were so impressed that they hooked me up with Sony records. But the deal fell through and a lot of promises that were made were not delivered.

All of my Brothers and Sisters in Christ were telling me that it was not wise for me to do secular music but I tried to justify that it was just music. It wasn't long before the choice was made clear: follow God and give up the dream of fame and fortune in the secular rap industry, or put my faith to the side and go after my dream.

I chose the latter.

I was being sought after by some of the biggest names in the rap industry. I met with the owner of Ruff Riders where we spent a whole day at a 5 million dollar mansion owned by an executive for Microsoft, where we talked about my future. Promises were made and never followed through on.

Years later I see it was God's hand protecting me from a world that would have completely destroyed me.

I had stopped praying, stopped going to church, no accountability whatsoever in my life. I met a woman on a trip back home and moved her to Dallas with me, where she got pregnant. Then I became distant and began to push her away. The fear of having a kid who would destroy my dream of fame and fortune was too much. So I sent her home back where she came from, starting the same cycle all over again that my father did with me.

I spent all my time going after this dream. I would work on my music and sell dope at a strip club at night to make money. I was fast becoming worse than the man that I was before I got saved.

Then it happened: I tried my own product. I was hooked. Now I was getting high every day. That drug addiction lasted for several years. I put my dream on hold and got married, moved back to Washington and set my mind to be a family man. But who was I kidding? I wasn't ready for marriage, I still had visions of grandeur about my dream of becoming a superstar. During this time I felt God tugging on my heart but I pushed it to the side. I ignored the voice inside of me imploring me to turn back from what was coming. I did not heed the warning.

Then my wife left me and everything fell apart. I fell into a downward spiral of drugs and women and every kind of depraved state of mind there was. Back in Dallas, my life was a wreck, in and out of jail, addiction and far removed from the praise that I had received for my musical talents and abilities. There was no glory, no love in my life, no hope. How had I gotten Here?

One decision at a time. But I could feel God calling me, imploring me to turn to him, that I did not have to live in the misery any longer. And I finally hit bottom and submitted to his will. It took me five years to finally say 'yes, Lord'.

God brought a couple into my life who took me in and discipled me for a year. He brought my brother to the same couple and they begin to disciple him as well. We worked through the very issues that had plagued us for years. He repaired my relationship with my brother. I studied and I got extremely close to God during that year. I broke off things in my life that had been there since childhood. I was on the right track. Doing well, had a good job, a new family, and I could never possibly turn back now.

Beware that you think you stand lest you fall! And then I fell again, left God and Church again and it all happened so fast. You see, I saw it coming and knew that destruction comes fast and swift. Within 8 months I was homeless and broke and and lonely again. I was being questioned about a murder of a woman that I was with 2 hours prior to her death, potentially going down for a crime I did not commit. I had my friend stabbed in front of me while he was trying to break into someone's home, was carjacked at gun point, all in 8 months.

Life was dark and I was tired. Tired of the roller coaster that my life had become! I had been here many times before! So I knew the answers. I knew that Satan was trying to destroy me and I through my selfish ways was destroying myself. So I made a vow right there that I was going to forsake everything, every dream and desire that I had I was going to hand over to God. I never wanted to end up here again and I was going to do whatever it took, submit to whoever God had for me to submit to, because I knew the next time would likely kill me.

I have been sober now for 4 years. I have given up the dream of being a superstar. The only Glory I want, I want to give to God. God has restored everything in my life spiritually, financially. Now I give back discipling young men, like myself who need direction in their life. I have held a job longer than anytime in my life. I work on million dollar homes, training under a man that is grooming me to be a leader in business.

I owed over 11 thousand dollars in back child support and have paid half of it off in less than 2 years and will have the rest done this year. I am working hard to do right by my son and ready to build a relationship with him when the Lord opens that door. I am starting college in the fall working towards a degree in business. I have major accountability in my life and have cut off all ties with my former life and friends.

I have not forgotten where I have come from. I know that Satan is just waiting to try to trip me up, but the God in me is more powerful and is able to keep me. I have fallen many times but have gotten back up and kept going. I do what is necessary to insure that I am grounded spiritually. The Father has loved me through it all and his grace and mercy has blown me away. He has shown how committed to me that he is. He has made me a different person. I used to think I was going to die at a young age like my father, a victim of homicide, but God had other plans. I no longer have that fear.

The most important piece of wisdom that I carry with me always, is that each decision that I make is life or death. I have chosen life and will continue to do so as long as I have breath.

7 comments:

Hula Girl at Heart said...

What a story! It's so good to hear of someone who made it through the darkness. So many people don't. Truly a story of hope. Thanks for sharing.

charlottes web said...

the angels are rejoicing that he has finally overcome the darkness. It will be a constant struggle for him as it is for all of us in different ways. May God bless and protect him.
Thanks for sharing this awesome story!

Starla said...

Wow. What a story! Here's a prayer that he keeps going on the path that God intends for him

hootnonny said...

I am speechless after reading Jim's story. I'll pray that his healing continues!

lisa said...

An amazing young man, and one whom I feel you are so fortunate to know. Thank you so much for sharing this here Gail.

Kittie Howard said...

What an incredible journey! Just when I thought he had bottomed out, he sank to another low. Thank you for sharing his story, Gail.

Nadine, Chewy and Lilibell said...

Wow, what a story that started out very sad and ended with a glorious ending. An amazing story from an amazing man who could give hope to so many others out there who are in the same situation he was. Gail, thank you for sharing such an inspiring story!